11 Limiting Beliefs And What To Do About Them
What we say to ourselves sometimes is how we make sense of not living to our fullest potential.
And understand what these 11 phrases I pulled from an older blog post of Grant’s actually mean will revolutionize the way you interpret some everyday comments you hear day in and day out.
Take note of these limiting beliefs and ask yourself, do you say these often? What level of agreement do you have with them? Are you allowing this line of thinking to keep you from creating the life you want and deserve?
- “I hate Mondays” is code for “I know I won’t make big money this week”
- “I’m not an extrovert” is code for “I’m ok being broke”
- “I’ve got some stuff planned” is code for “I’m procrastinating”
- “I’m trying” is code for “I’m about to quit”
- “That’s not my job” is code for “I’m a follower, not a leader”
- “Money isn’t everything” is code for “I’ve quit financially”
- “Patience is a virtue” is code for “I’m NOT in a hurry for success”
- “Put your money in an IRA or 401K” is code for “You have no clue what you’re doing with money, so we’re going to take your money, charge you a bunch of fees, and give you the leftovers.”
- “I don’t have time” is code for “This isn’t a priority for me”
- “It’s the journey, not the destination” is code for “I have no clue where I’m going”
- “I’ll get to it when I get to it” is code for “I’m overwhelmed and will never get to it”
QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR SELF and ACTION IDEAS TO TAKE:
ONE: What kind of goals and targets can I set that would make me jump out of bed EARLY on Monday instead of dreading the alarm?
TWO: What is my purpose? Am I connected to my WHY enough to where I’m willing to get and be uncomfortable and extrovert myself?
[EXTROVERT: extro / extra: outside; beyond. What if extrovert was actually a verb. What if it was something you did?]
THREE: What’s your motivation style? Toward or Away? You need both. Adding time to something does not always make it better. Waiting for the right moment to start – there is no right moment except for now.
FOUR: Stop trying and start doing. “Do or do not – there’s no try” and “there is no failure until you quit” So Take action. Learn from mistakes.
FIVE: We have a policy in the Miami office, “if the phone rings more than twice, it’s for you.” Take an owner’s mentality and assume full responsibility.
Whatever your “job description is, the bottom line is this: your company’s survival is your job.
Because #1, if they’re not doing well, neither are you. And #2, if you don’t want to see your company succeed and you’re not willing to go the extra mile you’re in the wrong company. And if you’re in the wrong company, before you “quit” did you do everything you could to make it the right company? Remember, if something is out of whack, it’s usually due to either perception or process or both.
SIX: Money isn’t everything until it is. When was the last time you couldn’t do something because you didn’t have the money? What was the last time you COULD do something because you DID have the money? What was the difference in feeling? When was the last time you said, “that’s ridiculous” concerning the cost of something? Was it motivating or discouraging? If you made sense of it with saying, “money isn’t everything” remember that statement, money isn’t everything until it is. It’s a tool to be used. I’m still working on getting my money right but I’ll tell you this, if you’re still trying to make sense of not having it, you’re never going to have it
SEVEN: Patience is a virtue. HUGE dichotomy here. And I’ll tell you why. We have a sign in our office that I just LOVE. Says, “We’re in a hurry to help your people.” Grant also teaches that “speed is power.” Both or these are 110% correct. If you want to make more money, the more time you can take out of the equation, the more you will make. Period. There is no legit argument to the contrary that doesn’t digress into excuse making.
Now here’s the dichotomy: Have you ever tried to rush a tomato plant?
Growth is a process. If you’re using the “patience” thing as an excuse to not go fast, to not operate with urgency, to just let it happen, that’s the problem. Watch those tomatoes, water, nurture, care for them with urgency because they are your food.
EIGHT: Your mission should you choose to except it: look of the Etymology of the work ECONOMY and start operating from that true definition. [drops the mic]
NINE: What are the things you don’t have time for? List them out. Now inventory out your day by the hour. What you do with your time IS your current priorities. Replace activities appropriately.
TEN: It’s the journey AND the destination. Do NOT use this BS line (or any of these limiting beliefs for that matter) to make sense of failure. Look, if God is real and the theory of evolution is also correct then as beings made in his image, we’re all on a journey of learning and winning but if you don’t have targets (destinations) you’re just wandering aimlessly. If you need milk, you’re going to the store. If you have to go to the bathroom really bad, it’s about the destination. Cool stuff will happen along the way but that doesn’t mean you get to disregard the end goal. Quote from Neale Donald Walsh
Life is not a process of discovery; it is a process of creation.”
ELEVEN: I’ll get to it when I get to it – when was the last time you said that and how did it feel? Who did you say it to and why? Why did you even commit to it in the first place? You just confront it with yourself and anyone else that regarding this thing you’re going to get to, that the reality is you do not give a shit at all and that in and of itself is a sign you’re not living your best life. You’re putting stuff off and are reacting to your environment instead of creating your environment. Stop that now.
Last word on limiting beliefs: Your environment is a creation you make and is determined daily by your thoughts, decisions and actions:
- THOUGHTS YOU HAVE
- Good thoughts
- Bad thoughts
- DECISIONS
- The meaning you assign to the thoughts
- What you do about the thought
- Keep it act on it
- Chuck it
- ACTIONS
- Right Actions at the Right Volume
- Consistency/Frequency
- Correction/Adjustment
