What Comes First In Marriage
FROM THE DESK OF GRANT CARDONE: Would you consider your marriage a dream marriage? It’s something that we all want, right? Look, we all want to have the best relationship possible but the fact of the matter is that nobody is perfect.
Bottom line is that if you are going to make the commitment to spend the rest of your life with someone, you should go all in and be sure that you have a marriage that is built to last.
Unfortunately, too many couples operate on two completely separate pages. It is possible to keep it going, but you’ll both constantly be faced with frustration and upsets.
In order to build a marriage that works, you must get on the same page as your spouse. For me, that means that my wife and I are crystal clear on our own goals, dreams, and purpose.
What Comes First In Marriage
My Dreams, then the marriage, then the kids. That’s my philosophy.
I always get heat when I talk about this, but if you take the time to think about it AND be completely honest with yourself…. How can you be a good father if you aren’t fully in tune and connected with your spouse?
…and how can I be a committed husband if I am not connected to my goals and dreams and living a fulfilled life that is in line with my purpose?
You see, if your priorities are screwed up, your household and your life will be screwed up. If you don’t put your dreams first, you are doing your family and yourself a disservice, and everyone will suffer.
Make no mistake about it, I am committed to making time for my family. I’m committed to my dreams at 100%, my marriage at 100%, and my kids at 100%.
I’m not telling you to go half-way with your spouse or your kids. Do that and you will end up divorced and your kids will end up resenting you.
But don’t let your dreams ever take a back seat to anything.
I told my wife Elena when we got married that I’d do anything for her, but I would never give up on my dreams. The truth is, you shouldn’t be with someone who would want you to give up on your dreams.
Your Dreams Are A Part Of You!
Give up on them and you give up on yourself. If you give up on your dreams I guarantee you that you will give up on anything else—including your marriage.
Somewhere along the line you may have got advice from people who have told you to settle for something less. To go for something more stable and realistic, right?
Even if you find yourself settling, have you really stopped dreaming? You still dream, it’s a part of human nature!
So why not use your dreams to achieve something big?
I still have dreams of things that I want to be done. This is why I work so hard to make those dreams come true.
I don’t think about just getting by, or just trying to be steady and “secure.” I aim for something bigger. I aim for my dreams.
You Must Start Thinking Bigger
Your dreams are worth it—and you are worth it.
When I was first starting my business, I cut out pictures of where I wanted to live and looked at those pictures every day. The reason I did this was that it reminded me every single minute what I was working for.
Visualization is powerful. It makes your goals real.
You no longer say you want to have a nice house, but rather you get to say, “I want that house, with this many rooms, on this street.” Start putting pictures of what you want in your life.
And keep your spouse on the same page with these dreams!
Creating A Great Marriage
Here are 3 things you must do in order to have not just a good, but a great marriage: